RELATIONSHIP GOALS : UNDERSTANDING EACH ONE'S ATTACHMENT STYLE

Psychology once thought me that there are different kinds of attachment. And there are a lot of attachment theories that you can search on the internet nowadays. Most of the articles I’ve read from psychologist suggests that . Our attachment style affects everything from our partner selection to how well our relationships progress and to, sadly, how they end. 

DISCLAIMER : This is going to be a long article, so if a lot of you will request by sending me a comment on the chatbox in this blog. I probably make another article on this topic.

Let us first understand “What is attachment and why is it important?”

Attachment refers the particular way in which you relate to other people. Your style of attachment was formed at the very beginning of your life, during your first two years.  Once established, it is a style that stays with you and plays out today in how you relate in intimate relationships and in how you parent your children. 

Now, let’s dig deeper and see what are the TYPES OF ATTACHMENT.

Secure Attachment:

Ideally, from the time infants are six months to two years of age, they form an emotional attachment to an adult who is attuned to them, that is, who is sensitive and responsive in their interactions with them. It is vital that this attachment figure remain a consistent caregiver throughout this period in a child’s life. During the second year, children begin to use the adult as a secure base from which to explore the world and become more independent. A child in this type of relationship is securely attached. 

Avoidant Attachment:

There are adults who are emotionally unavailable and, as a result, they are insensitive to and unaware of the needs of their children. They have little or no response when a child is hurting or distressed. These parents discourage crying and encourage independence. Often their children quickly develop into “little adults” who take care of themselves. 

Ambivalent/Anxious Attachment:

Some adults are inconsistently attuned to their children. At times their responses are appropriate and nurturing but at other times they are intrusive and insensitive. Children with this kind of parenting are confused and insecure, not knowing what type of treatment to expect. 

Disorganized Attachment:

When a parent or caregiver is abusive to a child, the child experiences the physical and emotional cruelty and frightening behavior as being life-threatening. This child is caught in a terrible dilemma: her survival instincts are telling her to flee to safety but safety is the very person who is terrifying her.  

_________________________________________________________________________________

Now that you have been introduced to the different types of attachment , probably it is time to assess yourself and find out how your style of attachment impacts of current relationship.

I might be posting an article soon on a quick assessment guide on your attachment style. Let me know if this will be relevant for you. Just send me a comment.

According to an article on pyschalive.org. attachment research demonstrates that “the best predictor of a child’s security of attachment is not what happened to his parents as children, but rather how his parents made sense of those childhood experiences.” The key to “making sense” of your life experiences is to write a coherent narrative, which helps you understand how your childhood experiences are still affecting you in your life today.

PH bet Jennifer Hammond gears up for Miss Intercontinental 2016

Binibining Pilipinas Intercontinental 2016 Jennifer Hammond says there is definitely pressure for her to perform at this year's Miss Intercontinental contest in Colombo, Sri Lanka. She has to maintain or surpass the successful streak by former queens Kris Janson, who placed 2nd runner-up in 2014, and Christi Lynn McGarry, who placed 1st runner-up in 2015.

Live Streaming on Youtube here:

In an interview with Rappler.com she responded :

"Kailangan ko ma-maintain iyon or 'yung progress na iyon. So the only way to progress is to win the title. After first runner-up, we have to win. So doon ako mas pressured," she told reporters during the send-off party for her and fellow beauty queens Kylie Verzosa and Nicole Cordoves last September 28.(I need to maintain that, or that progress. So the only way to progress is to win the title. After first runner-up, we have to win. So that's where I'm more pressured.)

As for her fears about the contest, Jennifer said: "Sa lahat naman ng beauty pageant, there’s politics and I heard from some, off the grapevine, na medyo may politics. So ang fear ko lang is I don’t get the chance to compete with all of them equally and cleanly, parang ganun. Kasi I know naman that alam ko sa sarili ko na I'm prepared, and if I do what I would have to do, I'll do well. "

(In all beauty pageants, there's politics and I heard from some, off the grapevine, that there is a bit of politics. So my fear is I don't get to compete with all of equally, and cleanly, like that. Because I know that I'm prepared, and I do what I would have to, I'll do well.)

But despite these issues, Jennifer is focused on getting the much coveted Miss Intercontinental crown for the country. Before leaving for Sri Lanka, Jennifer went through a lot of training for walking, the question and answer round, and doing her own makeup.

As for representing the Philippines, Jennifer said that she will just be herself when she competes with the other candidates.

"I think I'm an epitome of isang Filipina. Dahil lumaki naman ako dito, at yung mga values natin ay meron ako nun. So I will just show them who I am pero yung polished me. I would treat them with respect and be friendly with them as we are known to be really friendly people," she said in a mixture of English and Filipino.

ALL THE BEST TONIGHT FOR YOUR JENNIFER!!!

FINAL AUDITION DAY TONIGHT FOR PINOY BOYBAND SUPERSTAR

Tonight will mark the end of the audition for Pinoy Boyband Superstar. It has been almost a month that we have been waiting for the auditionees to showcase more of their talents and tonight will be the last batch of Pinoy Boyband hopefuls. 

As we all know In "Pinoy Boyband Superstar," aspiring singing heartthrobs aged 14 and above with charm, singing talent, and great personality will get the chance to make their dreams come true by being a part of a five-member boyband.

WHO WILL COMPLETE THIS LIST OF CONTENDERS???

“Pinoy Boyband Superstar” is hosted by Billy Crawford, who will serve as the ‘ultimate kuys’ who will guide the aspirants using his talent and experiences in the local and international music scene.

Leading the search for the “ultimate Pinoy boyband” are the superstar judges composed of the phenomenal box-office superstar Vice Ganda, international K-pop sensation Sandara Park, pop-rock superstar Yeng Constantino, and original heartthrob Aga Muhlach, who will decide on the fate of aspiring band members in the competition.

DON'T MISS THE EXCITEMENT TONIGHT: Check out their YouTube channel they have LIVE streaming for tonight's show.

WHAT IS A GUESTLIST ?

What does it mean by putting your name on the guest list? Does it mean you have been invited? Does it mean you get in for free?

Well for novice party goers’ the term guest list can be confusing I am going to try and explain what is actually meant by the phrase guest list and what the advantages are of getting on the guest list and how you can go about getting on a guest list.

Your probably wondering why bars & clubs require a guest list and why people cannot just turn up as and when they please?

Well in most cases they can, but on other busier more popular days like the weekends and special event nights a guest list is in operation to help the bars & clubs control the numbers of guests.

The guest lists give the managers a good indication of whether the night is going to be busy or not and if they are going to need extra stock, staff or security.

As for party goers getting on the guest list for clubs has its advantages as it improves your chances of getting in without a long wait, but it’s not a guarantee.

It may also eliminate or reduce the cover charge at some clubs and not at others.

Trying to get your names on guest list 20 minutes before arriving is a big “no, no”! As most guest lists have a cut off time, so submitting your list early is highly recommended.

For some clubs, it’s a simple matter of calling early in the evening and asking to be put on the guest list. You may be referred to the club website or a specific promoter.

What’s a promoter I hear you ask?

Well, you can check on my old posts on this blog explaining what promoters do, what their duties and responsibilities are (that includes my job!). But for the benefit of my new readers. A promoter is usually a person who promotes various events and night for bars and clubs and is usually rewarded with commission for every paying customer they bring.

Some promoters provide access to their guest list, especially for new clubs, through postings on social networking sites such as Facebook or Twitter and Instagram which is the most common way for promoters to get the word out to a large audience with the least amount of effort. As for me I maintain a blog for club promotion among other media platform.

Having your name on a guest list does not guarantee you and your guest entry to the bar or club, there are other factors at play, i.e. dress code, time of arrival, and most importantly your behaviour and attitude.

However there are ways of improving your chances of getting in also, like reserving a table and agreeing to minimum spends on bottle service can be the best way of bypassing the lines and guest list problem.

So before you plan your night out quickly do your homework on the venue of your choice and see what the entry requirements are and if you tick all the right boxes then you should have no problems at all.

Well that’s pretty much it on guest lists we hope you enjoyed our quick lesson and we welcome you to browse through some of our other blogs, hopefully they will be as helpful as this one.

Being on the VALKYRIE Nightclub guest list under Arvil Cabatic provides the following benefits:

• Get free entrance.
• Ladies get reduced cover charge or free entrance (every venue is different). With Valkyrie ladies get free entrance and complimentary drinks every Wednesday Night.
• Men and women skip the general admission line.
• Once you have signed up on the list, show up to the venue before 11pm and check in at the club’s designated area for guest lists. With Valkyrie it’s really that easy.

*FOR INQUIRIES ON ARVIL CABATIC'S GUESTLIST FOR VALKYRIE . YOU MAY TEXT OR CALL HIM AT : 0927-5320273.